Tammie Letroise Brown, NBC-HWC · ADHD Coaching Certified, TLB Health Coaching
Quick takeaways
You're the one everyone counts on. You hit the deadlines, you remember the field trip forms, you keep the whole operation upright. And still, somewhere under all of it, there's a quiet question that never quite goes away: why does this seem so much easier for everyone else?
If you've been asking that for twenty years — and answering it with "I just need to try harder" — this piece is for you.
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Book a free discovery callThe picture most of us were handed is a nine-year-old boy who can't stay in his seat. That picture leaves out nearly everyone I work with. In adults, ADHD tends to show up as a pile-up of small, exhausting things: an inbox you avoid because opening it means deciding, a brilliant hour of hyperfocus followed by three days of nothing, time that either doesn't exist or vanishes, and an emotional weather system that swings hard when something goes wrong.
It is also far more common than the childhood framing suggests. An estimated 15.5 million U.S. adults (about 6%) currently have an ADHD diagnosis, and more than half of them were diagnosed at 18 or older (CDC/CHADD, 2024). Diagnosis also arrives unevenly: research consistently finds women are identified roughly five years later than men, on average.
15.5 million U.S. adults. This isn't a statistic — it's a community.
Because you were good at it. Masking is the work of looking regulated while you are quietly running three backup systems: the alarms, the lists that get rewritten instead of used, the arriving-forty-minutes-early so you're never late, the rehearsing of a two-sentence question before a meeting.
Compensating works — that's the trap. High-achieving adults often stay under the radar precisely because the cost is invisible. The bill comes due when demand outpaces the workaround: a promotion, a new baby, a caregiving season, a job with no external structure. Then what looks like ADHD finally surfacing is usually just ADHD without enough scaffolding left to hide behind.
Add to that a generation of women and moms whose exhaustion got labeled anxiety, depression, hormones, or "just a lot on your plate," and late diagnosis stops looking like an accident.
Two things at once, usually. Relief, because there's finally a name and an explanation that isn't a character flaw. And grief — real grief — for the years spent believing you were lazy, careless, or not trying hard enough. People grieve the degree they didn't finish, the job they left, the way they spoke to themselves at 2 a.m. for a decade.
Both are appropriate. And a diagnosis is not a verdict about your worth; it's information you can finally act on. Nothing about you is broken, and there's nothing here to overcome. What changes is that you stop trying to run a brain on instructions written for someone else's.
Medical care is where diagnosis and medication live: a physician, psychiatrist, or qualified clinician evaluates and treats. Therapy is licensed clinical mental health care — the place for trauma, depression, anxiety, and the deeper history under the patterns. Coaching is forward-looking and practical: we start with the week you actually have and work on planning, deciding, recovering, and following through.
The credentials behind this site are context, not a flex. NBC-HWC means I'm board certified through the National Board for Health & Wellness Coaching — an approved program, supervised hours, a national exam, and an evidence-based, client-led standard. Beyond that, my training is specific to ADHD: executive function, time blindness, emotional regulation, masking, and late diagnosis, refined across hundreds of hours with exactly this population. None of it makes me your clinician — it makes me a coach who won't be confused by your brain, and who's more interested in what your Tuesday actually looks like than in listing letters after my name.
No. Plenty of my clients are self-identified, on a waitlist, or still deciding whether to pursue evaluation. We can work with how your brain functions right now regardless of what's on paper — and if a clinical evaluation would help, I'll tell you.
No, and it isn't trying to be. Coaching sits alongside them. Many clients get the most traction with some combination — a clinician for treatment, a therapist for the deeper work, and coaching for the daily how. If something you bring to a session belongs with a clinician, I'll say so directly.
You don't need a diagnosis, a perfect system, or a better attitude to start. You need a half hour and someone who'll take your actual life seriously. That's what the free discovery call is for.
Sources: CDC, Adult ADHD prevalence and diagnosis data (2024); CHADD, adult ADHD resources (2024).
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